About yesterday's activity, did you do something kind for someone you respect?

If you completed the task, then what did you do?

How did the person respond to your gesture?

If you didn't do the task, then have you scheduled something? What and when?

If you completed the task, then how did you feel doing it?

If you didn't do it, then how do you feel about following through with it?

Would you do something like this again for someone who's helped you out?

If you haven't completed the task yet, skip to Step 5.

Speaking of feelings, let's revisit those nagging thoughts playing in your head.

* What have they been telling you lately?
* What are you telling them?
* Who's winning?

If you don't already have someone, then look around you for a person who can help you sort things out in your life on a continual basis.

This person’s role is simply to help you bring out the best in you by helping you figure out the tough stuff. They should be able to get to the one or two simple strategies that help you move forward.

You can start looking for a mentor right where you are. The person could be a CASA, Guardian ad Litem, pastor, former teacher, principal, coach, grandparent or other older but safe relative, foster parent, older neighbor, your boss, etc. You get the idea.

"Older" means at least 10 to 15 years older - this gives them time to gain the experience that you are getting ready to borrow from.

The goal is simply to talk to them. Just listen to what they say and watch how they deal with life's challenges. It's a natural process, and one you can learn a lot from.

Are you interested in finding that someone who can help you sort through life's issues?

You don't have to make a formal request of the person.

The old school way is to just hang with them. Ask questions. Get to know them more. Bring up an issue you are experiencing that is giving you some trouble. See how they respond.

Even if you said no to the idea, do you see the value in finding someone who has leadership qualities that you could learn from?

If you said yes, will you follow up and start that conversation as soon as possible?

If there just isn't anyone available to fill that role for you now, or you're not ready to open up yet, then will you keep doing isoBlogs and engage with others in a Next Step community?

That's the difference maker.

If you haven't already joined a Next Step community, now's a great time.

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Willing?