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Title: Day 12_Get the 411
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Goal: this task will increase the confidence of the goal to feel respected (Worthy of Respect).
Next Step - JP published this Cognitive Task at under Societal | Foster Care and Education | Interpersonal and Social Skills
Doers: 6 | Form: Cognitive Task | Phase: | Type: Primary | Level: 1 | Code:
Start: Dec 14, 2019 | When: | Duration: 15 Minute(s)
  • Take a moment and get a mental image of yourself as the "you" that you would like most to be.

    What's your appearance? How do you carry yourself?

    What kind of expression do you have?
  • What did you feel as you imagined the "you" that you want to be?

    If you couldn't connect to an image, then think about some of your childhood visions of yourself as a "grown up". What was that person like?
  • That "you" that you imagined is already inside of you. Like the rest of us, it just needs a little help to pull it out. That's a normal part of development.

    Part of our growth is seeking out the right people to help us see something in ourselves that we could do better. We couldn't possibly see this part of ourselves without the help of others, and we're not meant to. We're too close to the situation. They can be objective.

    With that in mind, ask one of the following for time to talk to you about how they see you and if they have suggestions for improvement:

    *current or former school teacher
    *college instructor
    *mentor, CASA, or Guardian ad Litem
    *trusted friend
    *trusted relative

    Relax. They’re not going to slam you or deliberately humiliate you.

    Put this into perspective. Most of us welcome the chance to be encouraging, and we want to guide people toward the very best they can be.

    It’s an honor and a privilege just to be asked.

    Will you ask for time to speak with someone who can give you this sort of guidance?
  • Now it's your turn. Practice the way you would like to ask the person for insight about one or two things that would improve your current situation.

    In fact, you could ask it like this: I want to grow more as a person, and I'm hoping you could give me some insight. Could you show me something I'm doing well and one or two things that I could do better?

    You’re going to have to trust us here. What are you waiting for? Go for it!
  • Make sure you thank the person when you've finished the conversation.

    Do something nice for them, too, like a thank you text or email. You could also buy them a coffee or ice cream as a small token of appreciation.

    What's your plan? How will you thank them?
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