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Start:Jul 05, 2020

Duration:15 Minute(s)

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will increase the confidence to understand your value and learn how to command respect (Worthy of Respect).

Description: This 21-day trail is part of The Next Step series that offers step-by-step guidance to help teens and young adults discover their value and ... Read More


Step 1

Take a moment and get a mental image of yourself as the 'you' that you'd like most to be.

What's your appearance?

How do you carry yourself?

What are you doing in the image?

Step 2

What did you feel as you imagined the 'you' that you want to be?

If you couldn't connect to an image, then think about some of your childhood visions of yourself as a 'grown up'.

What was that person like?

Step 3

Did you realize that the person you imagined is already inside of you?

Like the rest of us it may just need a little help to pull it out. That's a normal part of most people's development.

Part of our growth is seeking out the right people to help us see something in ourselves that we could do better.

We couldn't possibly see this part of ourselves without the help of others, and we're not meant to.

We're too close to the situation. They can be objective.

With that in mind, ask one of the following for time to talk to you about how they see you and if they have suggestions for improvement:

*current or former school teacher
*college instructor
*mentor, CASA, or Guardian ad Litem
*trusted friend
*trusted relative

Relax. They’re not going to slam you or deliberately humiliate you.

Put this into perspective.

Most of us welcome the chance to be encouraging, and we want to guide people toward the very best they can be.

It’s an honor and a privilege just to be asked.

Will you ask for time to speak with someone who can give you this sort of guidance?

Step 4

Now it's your turn.

Practice the way you would like to ask the person for insight about one or two things that would improve your current situation.

In fact, you could ask it like this: I want to grow more as a person, and I'm hoping you could give me some insight. Could you show me something I'm doing well and one or two things that I could do better?

You’re going to have to trust us here.

What are you waiting for?

Go for it!

Step 5

Make sure you thank the person when you've finished the conversation.

Do something nice for them, too, like a thank you note, text or email. You could also buy them a coffee or ice cream, etc. as a small token of appreciation.

What's your plan? How will you thank them?

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