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Title: Day 16_Selma's Way
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Goal: this task will improve the confidence about the goal to resolve differences (Say What?! Escape from Drama).
Next Step - JP published this Cognitive Task at under Societal | Foster Care and Education | Interpersonal and Social Skills
Doers: 6 | Form: Cognitive Task | Phase: | Type: | Level: | Code:
Start: Dec 14, 2019 | When: | Duration: 15 Minute(s)
  • Go to the video and watch the unconventional way Selma dealt with her enemies.

    Tell us what you thought about it when you've finished.
  • What did you think about Selma's method to overcome bullies?
  • Bullying isn't where we're aiming here. What we're examining in this isoBlog is the way Selma hung onto her sense of dignity, overcoming hatred with love.

    That's a big one. That's the high-water mark.

    Look at it this way. There's evil in the world. Evil thrives on spreading hatred. Sometimes it even seeps out of us. Sometimes we see it coming out of family, friends and neighbors.

    When we're the ones on the receiving end, we tend to drop back, build a wall and nurture a grudge until it emerges as full-blown rage and bitterness.

    If allowed to happen, that means evil won.

    Has this happened to you? You can be honest here. It's a struggle for most everyone.
  • Selma saw it another way. She decided to fight hate with love.

    How did she do that?

    She was humble. Not humiliated. Humble. Noble. Confident enough about herself that she didn't have to prove anything.

    She knew something most of us wish we knew at her age. Cockiness is not your friend.

    That kind of pride squashes love as it tries to be better than the other person.

    If we're really honest, we have to admit that the real motive is to defeat the other person in some way, to make them look bad, to make them look inferior.

    If the focus is to be superior to the other person, then how can you love them?

    Take a moment to examine your interactions with a person you have the most conflict with. Does either cockiness or self protection play a part in the escalation? If so, how?
  •'s where you need to be brutally honest with yourself.

    How much do you really want to be loved for who you are and to love in return without feeling the need to protect yourself?
  • Do you really want to have a sense of stability?

    The kind of emotion we're talking about is a feeling of contentment, feeling complete, a sense of well being. Everything is working together with a great balance or rhythm. It feels solid.

    Get a visual of peace in your mind. What does it look like in your world right now?
  • Joy is a natural expression of that kind of stability.

    It's a happiness that is confident in who you are, where you're going and who's going with you. It bubbles up from feeling complete wholeness that you're headed in the right direction.

    On a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being highest, how much joy are you experiencing right now?
  • Get quiet for a moment. Tune out the clutter inside your head and any voices that are trying to say "you can't" or "you don't deserve".

    Get a mental image of what it would look like to have a life where you feel loved, experience a sense of complete well being and feel really good about that.

    Write about what you saw in the space provided.
  • How willing are you to lay down self-protective tendencies and let a little more love in?
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