Please be patient. A whole new experience is on the horizon...

Start:Jul 02, 2020

Duration:10 Minute(s)

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will improve the ability to make friends who bring out the best in you (My Space).

Description: 'My Space' is part of The Next Step navigational series. Use it like a GPS. Each day it gives specific steps to help you choose friends and ... Read More


Step 1

Go to the video icon to watch 'Level Up'.

Let us know how the music video landed with you when you've finished.

Step 2

The song is about people breaking through trust barriers.

The issues could be relational, homelessness, physical challenges or anything that makes you feel separate from the rest of the human race.

The video urges us to let our guard down, trust one level up and grow closer as a result.

Courage fuels the ability to trust. It's about having the courage to be vulnerable enough to let people get to know the real you.

How confident are you about letting someone get close enough to discover who you really are?

Step 3

How confident are you that you can allow them to remain in your life long enough to let your guard down one level more than you're typically comfortable in doing?

Step 4

If your answer indicates that you feel nervous about letting friends get too close, think about that.

To what extent have your experiences led you to believe that you can't trust people with things that matter most to you even if they prove themselves trustworthy over time?

Step 5

If you let go of that burden, you'll be able to allow people in who have your best interests at heart and who bring out the best in you.

This is working under the assumption that you get to know them and honestly give them a chance to get to know you (9 to 12 months).

As you open up to them, you can remove a layer of protection that once kept out pain.

Now that layer of protection is in the way.

It's actually causing you pain.

In fact, it's imprisoning you.

Can you see how it's preventing you from experiencing all the love, happiness and stability that good friendships have to offer you?

Step 6

Imagine you met someone today who seemed pretty decent.

You noticed you had some things in common.

They were approachable.

In fact, they made it easy for you. They walked up to you and started a conversation.

The interaction went really well.

It made you feel pretty good about yourself.

The other person seemed to enjoy it, too.

You started hanging out and discovered even more in common.

This person was really honest with you and had a perspective about things in life that you enjoyed hearing.

They made you feel comfortable and respected.

Imagine how it would feel to let them in one level beyond what you would normally allow a new friend.

This isn't a physical intimacy. It's emotional - a friendship. Nothing weird or contrived.

It's one level up in trusting that the friendship will continue to deepen and become a source of support and encouragement.

Can you get a mental picture of that?

Describe how you would feel and how you think things might go if you let down your mistrust.

Step 7

One level up. That's all we're asking.

Will you commit to giving it your very best to push through your mistrust to give someone a break in getting to know you one level beyond what's typical for you?

Step 8

Where are you going to go to start your 2.0?

Elements (0)