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Day 18_Lemons or Lemonade

Start:Jul 07, 2020

Duration:10 Minute(s)

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will increase the confidence to understand your value and learn how to command respect (Worthy of Respect).

Description: This 21-day trail is part of The Next Step series that offers step-by-step guidance to help teens and young adults discover their value and ... Read More


Step 1

What thoughts are running through your mind right now that compete with the best thing about you?

Step 2

Do you think any of your struggles were made more dramatic because of your inner dialogue?

Go easy with this.

It's not a blame game.

It's an honest assessment that will help you catch it the next time so you can avoid negativity.

Step 3

Do you know how to flip messages that make things appear worse than they really are?

Here's the thing about flipping negative self talk to good: it takes off pressure you were never meant to experience.

It's not about the reality of any situation you're facing.

It's about refusing to allow situations to get out of control.

It's about learning how much power you have to overcome challenges by changing the way you perceive them.

For example, you can see a challenge and say, "OMG! Not again! This can't be happening! I'm getting my butt kicked."

Or you can see the same challenge and say, "'s my chance. I can think through this carefully. I'll find a way around it, over it or through it. I'm going to develop my strengths while I do it. I think I'll make it easier on myself by respecting the fact that people genuinely care about me and want to help out. So I'll ask for help."

You've gone from "I've lost; this situation is bigger than I am" to "I've won and gained strength and friendships in the process."

Start by taking what you've been telling yourself lately that was negative and flip it around to its opposite message where you're the winner.

Step 4

How did that make you feel?

Step 5

Before you sign out, get a mental image about your victory over your current challenge.

Hang onto that image and the flipped message as you go through your day.

Select "successful" when you've got the image in your mind.

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