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Start:Jul 16, 2020

Duration:15 Minute(s)

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will improve the ability to make friends who bring out the best in you (My Space).

Description: 'My Space' is part of The Next Step navigational series. Use it like a GPS. Each day it gives specific steps to help you choose friends and ... Read More


Step 1

What kind of people may have the ability to give you the testudo-shield support we've been talking about?

Here are a few to consider:

* There are older, wiser people who help you figure out the best solutions to a challenge.
* There are friends who inspire you to dream bigger or help you learn things that you didn’t know before - good things, empowering things, motivating things.
* There are those who say the hard thing. They challenge you to improve what's holding you back.
* There are people who listen to all the turmoil and triumphs in your life, and you listen to theirs.
* There are people who just seem to be there when you need help with the little things and with the big things, whether it's moving to your new apartment or giving you a ride when the bus is late.
* There are people who make you laugh or just make your day by being around them.
* There are romantic relationships that are based on mutual love and respect.

List the important relationships in your life and what types of friendship they represent based upon what you read above.

Step 2

Who is missing from that list that you'd like to add?

Step 3

Imagine how your life would be different if they were a part of it.

Step 4

In the movie, 'The Bucket List', two men played by Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson developed a close friendship at the end of their lives.

They learned to trust each other at a time when they felt most vulnerable.

They were real and sometimes raw with their emotions and struggles.

They developed a friendship we could all learn from.

Go to the video icon above and watch two scenes from the movie.

Let us know how they landed with you when you've finished.

Step 5

The main characters from 'The Bucket List' became the most unlikely of friends.

Each had something important to offer the other that no one else in their inner circles could fulfill.

They needed each other during the most challenging part of their lives.

We sometimes forget that we have a part to play in others’ lives, too.

Given your understanding of 'real you', what quality would you offer a friend who needed your support?

Step 6

If you can't think of anything, then remember your five senses:

* touch - a hug or pat on the back
* taste - an ice cream or coffee
* sight - see them for who they are
* smell - a cup of hot chocolate on a cold day or a warm cookie when they need a treat
* hearing - listen to them when they need advice or simply need to be heard

Let's add a sixth:

* your voice - speak honestly and openly to encourage, motivate, challenge or problem solve

Which of these can "real you" offer easily and naturally?

Step 7

How willing are you to offer up something that will support and encourage your friend, no matter how old they are or what role they play in your life?

Step 8

Do that and the walls of protection will start to crumble naturally.

Trust will follow suit.

Did you know that?

Step 9

If you get a chance, watch the movie 'The Bucket List'. You may be able to stream it or check it out at your local library.

It's well worth the effort.

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