Let's revisit a core concept that tends to destabilize us when we feel threatened.
This trust issue is one that definitely takes time. For most people, it takes a lot of time, depending on the situations that triggered mistrust.
The deliberate choice to trust makes us feel stretched. But it's a struggle that's well worth the initial discomfort.
It's not even realistic to think you should have it all down by now. The truth is that you may not be ready to bring down the fortress encircling your heart. It was built because you needed it. But you're not in that situation now. Remind yourself, if you have to, that it's hurting you, not helping you.
You may have to keep reminding yourself to trust that most people have your best interests in mind.
Start there. It's a simple way to open your ears and hear what the other person has to say. In time, the walls of that fortress start to crumble until, eventually, they're gone.
Go to the video icon above and revisit the clip about a boy who had every reason not to trust.
Choose what you thought about the clip when you've finished.