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Title: Day 20_Up the Ante
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Goal: this task will increase the confidence of the goal to feel respected (Worthy of Respect).
Next Step - JP published this Cognitive Task at under Societal | Foster Care and Education | Interpersonal and Social Skills
Doers: 6 | Form: Cognitive Task | Phase: | Type: Primary | Level: 1 | Code:
Start: Dec 15, 2019 | When: | Duration: 15 Minute(s)
  • Think of somebody you've not gotten along with recently.

    Approach them today and bring up the issue that's been bothering you. The goal will be to show yourself you can do something uncomfortable but do it with strength and purpose.

    Who is the person you need to have a conversation with?
  • To feel better about this exercise, role play the conversation with a friend or practice it in front of a mirror.

    Two things to keep in mind as you are practicing:

    First, pay attention to any self-defeating messages in your mind. Mentally shake off any negative chatter by flipping the negative to the exact opposite and positive message. Focus on the positive.

    Second, don't overdo it. No cocky attitude.

    Strike a balance. You want to be humble. "Humble" is being confident in who you are without the need to prove it to others.

    Will you practice?
  • Before heading out, remember your go-to stance that will give you the confidence to carry out your conversation.

    HEAD UP.
    CONFIDENT SMILE. (think Laurence Fishburne in "The Matrix" or Queen Latifah as herself.)

    Maintain a confident posture throughout the conversation. It will give you an air of authority.

    Here are some tips to overcome conflict should it arise, “When you said (fill in the blank) made me feel (fill in the blank).....” Add, “What did you really mean by that?”

    Know in advance that if the person is negative, you can agree to disagree and move on. Literally, move on. You have the power to end the conversation and leave. You will have said your piece and will have held your own. That's what mattered.

    But...what if...things go well?

    Will you try this approach?
  • Just let it happen, and watch the results follow naturally.

    How would you rate your confidence level at this point in handling awkward or potentially tense conversations?
  • At one time in your life, maybe you were not allowed to stand up for yourself without severe consequences.

    Unless you are in another relationship like that one, then you are now free to speak your mind as long as you do it respectfully.

    Do you understand the difference?
  • When you're ready, go have the conversation.
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