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Start:Jul 02, 2020

Duration:10 Minute(s)

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will improve the ability to make friends who bring out the best in you (My Space).

Description: 'My Space' is part of The Next Step navigational series. Use it like a GPS. Each day it gives specific steps to help you choose friends and ... Read More


Step 1

Go to the video icon above to watch the final scene of the movie, 'Antwone Fisher.

Let us know whether you felt it or how much you felt it when you've finished.

Step 2

As you conclude your navigational steps in 'MY Space,' there are a few tips to keep in mind.

These are the same things that Antwone learned during his journey.

It wasn't easy, and trust was a huge barrier for him, but he hung in there.

He won. It was a real-life story. So can you.

First know who you are at the core.

Understand what's most important to you; the values you won't compromise for anything.

Will you give it everything you've go to stick to your core values?

Step 3

The second tip is to seek people to befriend who have the same or similar values as you do.

Seek a variety of people with the understanding that it's their values and the skills they bring to the friendship that will form a Testudo-style support and protection, like the Roman soldiers and their overlapping shields.

These skills we mentioned will be those that nurture, challenge, teach new concepts, lead you in the right direction and support you as you head that way.

How much do you honestly think you will you adhere to this standard?

Step 4

Third is to spend an hour a day alone in order to get to know 'real you'.

Practice being the real you without regard to past experience, what others have said or what you think others have said about you.

Don't corrupt who you are or allow others to tell you to hide the best thing about you.

Will you remember that you are a treasure just as you are?

Step 5

Fourth if friends don't bring you joy, but rather make you work too hard for their friendship or do things to belittle you, then they have to go.

Remember the song that sends you.

If a relationship fails to leave you with that same feeling of being alive and carefree as your favorite tune does, then realize it may be time to move on or face a gap in your overlapping shields.

Where there's a gap, there's a vulnerability, a lack of support and protection.

Do you agree?

Step 6

Finally, keep in mind that being yourself and being honest with where you are in life is a gift to other people.

Bring your real self to any friendship and be prepared to offer them the same support and encouragement that you want them to offer you.


Step 7

How much did the 'MY Space' navigational steps increase your confidence in forming reliable friendships that will bring out the best in you?

Choose from 1 to 10 with (1) being 'Not feeling it' to (10) 'My network is like a Roman testudo!'

Step 8

To keep these concepts alive, we've put together a 'MY Space' Checklist for you.

It's in the 'related' tab above.

Click on it now and schedule the checklist as often as you like. We recommend once a week. It only takes about 5 minutes to review.

When you're ready, advance to the next stage of your journey by going to the 'related' field and selecting 'Blind Spots, Baggage & Behavior.'

Select Instant Do, or schedule the day you'd like to begin the 'Blind Spots' guide. It's 21 days long with no breaks for weekends or holidays.

Are you in?

Step 9

Do you think someone else could benefit from 'MY Space'?

If so, feel welcome to share 'MY Space' with them using the share icon on the left sidebar.

Happy trails!

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