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Title: Day 21_You Always Had It
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Goal: this task will increase the confidence of the goal to feel respected (Worthy of Respect).
Next Step - JP published this Cognitive Task at under Societal | Foster Care and Education | Interpersonal and Social Skills
Doers: 4 | Form: Cognitive Task | Phase: | Type: Primary | Level: 1 | Code:
Start: Dec 06, 2019 | When: | Duration: 15 Minute(s)
  • To sum up what you've learned so far, start with those thoughts that put you down.

    Oh, you'll mess up in life occasionally. That's not the point. Mistakes don't prove the messages were right. They only prove that you get another chance to establish what is good and right about who you are.

    Will you defeat those messages with the truth about who you are and where you're heading in life the instant they pop up?
  • Will you find someone to help you see clearly when you're confused or in the middle of a conflict?

    Not a "yes" person or a "pleaser" but a person who knows you and respects you enough to tell you the truth.
  • Will you make it a habit to say "thank you" and do something kind for the people helping you find your way?

    It keeps you humble, and it shows them respect.
  • It's important not to assume anything. That can end up making you look bad. You don’t want that. Trust us. We’ve been there. Too many times.

    Remember that respect begins with what you're telling yourself, so make sure you're telling yourself that you're worth being shown respect and respecting others.

    As you approach the person who offended you:

    CONFIDENT SMILE (think Will Smith in "Hitch" or Salma Hayek as herself or Drew Barrymore in "Ever After")

    Maintain that posture throughout the conversation.

    You could start the conversation with, “When you say this (fill in the blank) makes me feel like (fill in the blank). What did you really mean by that?"

    The more you approach situations this way, the more natural it will become and the more authority you'll exude. The point is not to dominate or to be submissive. It's to resolve a difference.

    How comfortable are you in using this approach?
  • On a scale of 1 to 10, how worthy of respect do you feel with 1 being not at all and 10 being very comfortable in any situation?
  • We know you're well on your way to becoming the man or woman you were destined to become, the one that makes you feel your absolute best, the real you.

    We hope a strong group of capable people show up and encourage you through important changes in your life.

    We hope you develop an understanding of your value and that it far exceeds whatever you've imagined up to this point.

    You only have to look inward to connect to it. Your value has been there all along. It's immeasurable and unconquerable. You're the only one who has the power to refute it.

    We hope you use your power for good.

    Know that we believe in you all the way. We hope you'll keep doing isoBlogs to overcome what's trying to defeat you. You'll overcome it. It's what makes you so strong. It's what others look up to in you.

    We hope you're filled with an irrepressible joy and sense of peace about this adventure you're living.

    You're blazing a trail for others to follow.

    How does that make you feel?
  • When you've finished this session, go to the 'unscheduled' tab and select the "Respect" checklist. Schedule it as often you like to increase your momentum. We recommend a once-a-week refresher.

    In addition, advance to the next step in your journey by going to the 'unscheduled' tab and selecting the "MY Space" isoCourse.

    Schedule it. It runs for 21 days without interruption - that means through weekends and holidays.

    Will you give it a try?
  • Do you think someone else could benefit from this course?

    If so, please feel welcome to share the link by going to the 'Course' tab above and then select the 'Share' tab.
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Publisher Next Step - JP sent a message on Feb 13, 2017
Message: Take a moment to honestly assess your beliefs about yourself now versus the beginning of the isoBlog course. If you need to go through the course again, then reschedule it. Or you can reschedule specific days as often as you need to until you feel like you have broken through. To maintain your momentum, you can also start MY Space. It takes you through the process of building a reliable and supportive group of friends and allies. These allies should be a reflection of your core values or the values you are working to develop. In other words, this group of supporters should be chosen based on who you aspire to become. This is the person you were always meant to be but may have taken a detour along the way. This business about allies is a process, but keep your eyes open. There's always someone out there who has the right answer and who wants to help out. Make life easier for yourself. Let them speak.
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