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Start:Jul 05, 2020

Duration:15 Minute(s)

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will improve the ability to separate fact from fiction. (Perception vs. Reality).

Description: 'Perception vs. Reality' is part of The Next Step navigational series designed as a GPS for transition-age foster youth and other young adul ... Read More

Summary:

Step 1

Did you role play yesterday?

If you didn't have a chance to do the exercise, we encourage you to try it as soon as possible, but continue on with these steps.

Step 2

If you followed through with the role play, what was the question the other person asked? Did you use any of the skills from the list we offered up in Day 2?

If you didn't do the role play, was there a situation that came up in real life where you had to figure out what was really going on?

Tell us about it.

Step 3

Whether it was a real-life situation or a role play, how did the interaction make you feel at the end?

Step 4

Did the interaction make you communicate differently?

Did you work to understand each other better?

Think of it this way, your mouth can be as important as your ears in communicating through emotionally charged situations.

It helps to learn how to talk to a person in a way they understand.

That alone helps to build trust, making those emotional landmines less intense.

Go to the video icon for a little insight from the film, 'The Blind Side'.

Tell us what you thought about the clip when you've finished watching it.

Step 5

Could it be that, like Michael in the film, the self-protective and necessary tools you once used for survival are no longer working for you?

Choose how often you use self-protective tools.

Step 6

List as many of the survival tools you needed while you were growing up.

To get you started the 'tools' could have been:
*quick reaction time
*aggressive mannerisms
*staying out of sight (under the radar)
*verbally or physically attacking
*being loud
*running away or hiding from danger
*untrusting
*one-sided communication
*intimidating
*sarcastic
*pleasing
*non-confrontational, etc.

Step 7

List survival tools you're using that often leave you worse off than before.

*** We're going to end this session on a good note, so don't stay in this place and feel bad about it. Go in. Get what you need. Get out of Memory Lane.

Step 8

If you're unclear about what has to go then think about it this way: if you react in a way that consistently makes people feel angry, hurt, frustrated or manipulated, then it has to go.

If the reaction shuts you down, makes you sad, frustrates you, or makes you feel inferior, then it has to go. The sooner the better.

You deserve some peace and happiness in your life. So do your friends and coworkers.

Are you willing to let go of old tools that no longer work for you and develop new ones?

Step 9

Why don't you lighten things up a little. Go make someone else's day a little brighter.

Suggestions:
*Offer a friendly smile to a stranger.
*Open a door for someone.
*Pay for someone's coffee or ice cream or whatever yummy treat you're in line for.
*Offer to help pick up something someone dropped.
*Complement someone who looks like they could use one. (Hint: we could all use one.)

Willing?

Step 10

We'll see you tomorrow! Hope you have a good story for us about making someone's day.

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