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Title: Day 3_Wish 'em Well
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Goal: this task will accomplish the achievement of the goal to stop lashing out or shutting down (Blind Spots).
Next Step - JP published this Cognitive Task at under Societal | Foster Care and Education | Interpersonal and Social Skills
Doers: 6 | Form: Cognitive Task | Phase: | Type: Primary | Level: 1 | Code:
Start: Dec 15, 2019 | When: | Duration: 15 Minute(s)
  • Did you do anything yesterday that made you see yourself in a more positive way? If so, what did you do?
  • Understanding your value helps to deflect the hurtful blows everyone receives now and then.

    It makes us stronger, more resilient and more at peace with ourselves because others' opinions of us don't have the same effect. But that degree of confidence often takes time to achieve.

    At this point in your life, how do you react when someone says or does something unkind or unfair to you?
  • The fastest way to become confident about who you are is to refuse to allow others to have a negative hold over you because of their unkind words or actions. Their words or actions were mean, but that doesn't change who you are. Your intrinsic value is untouched.

    When someone is mean, put a different narrative in your mind as quickly as possible. Bless them, so their actions don't leave you feeling cursed.

    An example could be something like:

    I hope (fill in the name) gains the ability to recognize the pain they've caused me and maybe others like me when he (or she) says or does things that are cruel. I bless you with the ability to find peace, so you stop acting this way. I bless myself with the ability to move on without shame or regret. I'm still me, and that's a good thing.

    Wishing someone well helps you put things into perspective, release the anger, and move on.

    That's freedom. That's what we're after with this exercise. Freedom. Yours.

    Practice this idea. Write something that's hopeful for someone who's been unkind to you recently.
  • Now write something hopeful for YOURSELF.

    Here's an example: I hope I'll be viewed by myself and others as strong, competent and smart. I wish myself well in recognizing my innate value, and I hope I'll always appreciate that part of me.

    Hey, that was just an example. Your "something hopeful" should be meaningful to you and you alone.
  • Go to the 'demo' tab and listen to Christina Aguilera's "Fighter" and/or Rascal Flatts' "Stand". Different genres. Good tunes. Pick the one that jumps out at you, or enjoy both of them.

    Let us know what you thought of them when you've finished.
  • Now treat yourself to something nice.

    Some examples include:
    * join a pick-up basketball game
    * buy yourself an ice cream or other special treat (one that won't get you into trouble later)
    * ask a friend to join you for a hamburger, taco or a movie
    * go for a walk in a place that makes you happy
    * play music that puts a smile on your face

    You get it. Now go do it.
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