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Start:Jul 02, 2020

Duration:15 Minute(s)

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will improve the ability to separate fact from fiction. (Perception vs. Reality).

Description: 'Perception vs. Reality' is part of The Next Step navigational series designed as a GPS for transition-age foster youth and other young adul ... Read More

Summary:

Step 1

Let's start today with a music video by the cast of Glee.

Pay attention to the lyrics. Things aren't what they seem.

Go to the video icon to watch it.

Let us know what you thought when you've finished.

Step 2

Does the message from Bonnie Tyler's original song, 'Total Eclipse of the Heart,' describe how you feel sometimes, alone and misunderstood?

Step 3

Did you notice that the singer's perception was off? She couldn't see the person who was ready to reach out to her.

All she had to do was turn around and see that mistrust was blocking her. What she always wanted was right there waiting for her.

Things weren't what they seemed. She didn't need to feel alone or misunderstood or judged because none of it applied.

But she couldn't see that.

Does that relate to your situation in any way?

Step 4

How often do you feel insecure about letting people into your life to support you?

Step 5

Nearly everyone feels insecure about something.

What's true about insecurities is that perspective helps to blunt their impact.

Being willing to adjust your perspective is the first step in being able to trust.

When you 'turn around' and see that the thing that made you nervous doesn't stop people from liking or respecting you, then you open yourself to having the very thing that you thought would never be possible.

Turn around. Look. See.

There are people staring back at you who think well of you. Just start with that.

Name the people in your life who seem to like you and treat you well.

Step 6

What do you think they saw that you didn't see?

Step 7

How frequently do you let them into your life and allow them to get to know you?

Step 8

Would you make a different decision about any of them if you had it to do over?

If so, what would you do differently?

Step 9

Over the next 24 hours, notice people at school, work, or around your neighborhood.

If someone looks back, smile. Hold their gaze long enough to say hello. Ask how their day is going.

See where that takes you. It's not meant to go much farther than a short conversation.

The point is to notice that there are friendly people out there who, if given the chance, could be very encouraging.

Make it a habit to notice others and talk to them. It's a great way to find encouragement.

How willing are you to make the effort?

Step 10

As you head out the door, keep in mind that you're likable and worthy of respect.

Agreed?

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