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Title: Day 6_Facing Facts
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Goal: this task will accomplish the achievement of the goal to stop lashing out or shutting down (Blind Spots).
Next Step - JP published this Cognitive Task at under Societal | Foster Care and Education | Interpersonal and Social Skills
Doers: 6 | Form: Cognitive Task | Phase: | Type: Primary | Level: 1 | Code:
Start: Dec 15, 2019 | When: | Duration: 10 Minute(s)
  • These isoBlogs are meant to help you deal with pain you haven't been able to get to on your own and, eventually, help you feel better about it.

    As part of the process, the occasional tough question can help you realize where you are at this point.

    Take the quiz below. Be very honest.

    Do you feel the need to:
    1-Be right in every circumstance?
    2-Be first in everything you do?
    3-Be constantly in control?
    4-Be perfect or avoid criticism at any cost?
    5-Be loved by everyone?
    6-Be possessive?
    7-Avoid conflict and frustration at the expense of how you honestly feel?
    8-Change others to meet your needs?
    9-Manipulate others for fear you won't get your needs met any other way?
    10-Blame others for things that go wrong?
    11-Dominate others (i.e., talk over them, belittle them to make you look better than they are, or issue orders to friends or romantic partners, expecting them to obey without question)?
  • Review your responses as objectively as possible.

    A “yes” on any of these is a tendency towards codependency, a trait often shown by those who have unhealed pain or trauma in their lives.

    Emotionally controlling or hurtful tendencies may be uncovered with a "yes" to 1, 3, 6, 8, 9, 10 & 11.

    There's no judgement here. The goal is for you to discover patterns, so you'll be able to be objective about their effect on you and those around you.

    Is there a behavior from the quiz you'd like to change?
  • What would you like to do differently?
  • Find an older, wiser friend - someone you respect - and ask them how they'd describe you.

    No need to feel embarrassed or defend yourself.

    Simply talking about a situation that makes us feel powerless offers relief.

    Who can you talk to?
  • If you don't have someone to talk to, then post to the Next Step community you're in.

    You might be surprised about the advice and support you receive.

    Will you post?

    If you do, then view their comments in 'my journal' in your Day Plan.
  • Best to you.
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