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Start:Jul 05, 2020

Duration:20 Minute(s)

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will increase the confidence to understand your value and learn how to command respect (Worthy of Respect).

Description: This 21-day trail is part of The Next Step series that offers step-by-step guidance to help teens and young adults discover their value and ... Read More


Step 1

How did you feel when you did the exercise yesterday? (The task was to find someone different from you and smile and say hello to them as you passed by.)

You did it, right? If so, how did it go?

If not, why not and when can you try it?

Step 2

Assuming you did the task, describe the person you picked to say hello to.

What was their response as you smiled at them? In other words, what was their facial expression or body language? Did they say anything back?

Step 3

Think about how that task made you feel after doing it. Did you feel awkward or encouraged?

Did the experience build your confidence enough to try it again in another situation?

We encourage you to repeat this exercise again and again until it feels natural and you could care less what anyone thinks.

Step 4

Here's something else to consider.

Respect begins with how you treat your body and how you deal with your personhood, which is the essence of who you are, the very best thing about you.

For encouragement, go to the 'video' icon and listen to Meghan Trainor's song 'Dear Future Husband' and think about the lyrics.

Guys, we know it's not all one sided. There's plenty of nonsense going on from the ladies' side.

So...go ahead. Listen. The message goes both ways.

Let us know what you thought about the video when you've finished watching it.

Step 5

a- Did you relate to the song's message?
b- How would you want to see common decency play out in every day words and actions by you and others?
c- What is your part in being respected?

Remember that it is imperative for you to establish your own sense of self worth before you can fully appreciate being around people who will respect you.

Step 6

List one change you will make starting today that will leave you feeling better about yourself.

How about it? What are you going to do?

*We figure you already know this. Just in case there's someone who doesn't....Self Worth and self respect can't exist where there is manipulation, coercion or violence.

Step 7

To connect to your courage, imagine yourself as your favorite, strong-minded rock star, actor or character in a film or book.

Practice how THAT person would respond in a similar situation that previously made you feel nervous, angry or frustrated.

"Wear" that image into the situation until you are comfortable being yourself.

How confident are you that you can do this?

Step 8

Go get 'em!

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