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Start:Jun 12, 2019

Duration:10 Minute(s)

Goal: this Cognitive Trail will increase the confidence to understand your value and learn how to command respect (Worthy of Respect).

Description: This 21-day trail is part of The Next Step series that offers step-by-step guidance to help teens and young adults discover their value and ... Read More

Summary:

Step 1

Take a moment and imagine you're walking into a room of 100 people. In this scenario, you're mixing with people you don't know anything about except that they all seem different from you.

As you play out the image, pause in the middle of the room. Look around. How do you imagine these people really feel about themselves - not you - themselves?

Here's the secret that most of us keep hidden. In that same room of 100 people, you can bet that at least 90 of them will be wondering painfully if the other people will respect them or express any value for them at all. It doesn't matter how smart, successful or attractive they may appear. They're still thinking it.

Most of them, like most of us, are listening to messages that replay in their minds, telling them they're not good enough, smart enough, successful enough and on and on...

Did you realize this about people before now?

Step 2

The problem is that sometimes we listen to others' opinions or assume things about ourselves and others that aren't true. We may even question our worth based on belittling messages that play over and over in our minds.

That doesn't have to be the case.

The steps over the next 21 days are about reconnecting with that part of you that feels like you've been denied respect.

Are you ready to discover how to feel respected and how to show others the same level of respect that you want?

Step 3

Let's start with those messages that replay in our minds as if they're on some kind of looping device. They're our "internal dialogue".

What are they saying?

Step 4

To put a stop to those negative thoughts, you first have to learn how to value...you.

How much do you believe that you bring great value to the world simply for being the person you are...not what others think of you...not what you have... and not what you do?

Step 5

Select the 'video' icon above and watch the clip from the movie, 'Mask.' It's the true story of Rocky Dennis, a young man who suffered from a disfiguring genetic disease called "Lionitis."

Notice the person who shows unflinching respect for himself as you're watching the clip.

Tell us what you thought when you've finished.

Step 6

Rocky refused to allow appearance to stop him from being happy. He decided early on that he would be who he was meant to be without regard to what others thought about him.

That's a critical piece.

Describe how you currently see yourself, naming the qualities you most admire about you.

Descriptive words could include:

*strong
*compassionate
*considerate
*creative
*smart
*determined
*resilient
*funny

For example, you could say: "I'm a compassionate and strong person who's been through a lot, and I'm determined to reach my dreams and help others reach theirs."

Step 7

Let's stop here for today.

'Worthy of Respect' runs for 21 days without breaks for weekends or holidays.

If you post to Publisher, check 'Day Plan' for responses.

If you'd like to interact with others you can relate to, then feel welcome to join a Next Step campfire in your area.

You can also join the JP campsite that's made up of many groups of teens and young adults nationwide who are headed toward similar goals as you are.

If interested, post your email address to us in the last open space on any page. Let us know what city you live in and if you want to be placed in the same group as someone you know. You'll receive an invite from isodoit.com. Click on the link. You're in.

To read posts and responses, go to your Day Plan or view them in 'my journal'.

If you're reading this page from another site, then you'll have to sign in and create an account to be able to post comments and save your responses.

Interested?

Step 8

Will you commit to show up each day, do your steps, and be honest with your answers?

See you tomorrow!

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